Making Room for Disagreement at Home
A lot of families treat disagreement as a failure. They equate a peaceful home with an agreeable one, where everyone thinks alike and nobody rocks the boat. But real families…
The Long Game of Family Life
We tend to measure family life in short bursts. How was today. How was this week. How are the kids doing this month. But family is really a long game,…
Raising Children Who Trust Their Own Judgment
Every parent wants to send a child into the world who can make good decisions. But there is a trap hiding inside that wish. If we make every decision for…
Time Together Is Not the Same as Time Well Spent
There is a comforting illusion that families fall into. If we are all in the same place, we must be connected. Everyone is home, the door is shut, the family…
Learning to Apologize Without Excuses
Most apologies are not really apologies. They come with a hook, a qualifier, a small clause that quietly hands the blame back. I am sorry, but you were being difficult.…